Advice Please?

[biggestjonasfan]

Okayy, so lets see if you can help me..

This boy at my youth group, who is like 3 years younger then me has a crush on me. It's really really obvious, and all the girls there think so too. Even my best friend who wouldn't want that to be true said it was true.. And now that I think of it. I kinda like him too. I mean he is such a cutie, and he is super funny..
But the only problem is he can't date untill he is 18 years old.. THATS IN 5 YEARS!
What should I do? I don't want to tell him that I like him, 'cause then EVERYONE at youth will find out. But I want to know if I have a chance with him. He is a total flirt with me.. And I kinda flirt back. We always "fight" at our youth group too. Like we play dodge ball just between us. It's so much fun. And when we went away with our youth.. we were like best friend. Inseprable.

AHH! What to doo!? Help?? (:

[Naz]

wow, so he's 13 and your 16? I see, that is a not that big of a difference.
It seems like you guys really like each other, and even if he is small, you don't have to be shy about it, deep down you know you like him too. I understand why his parents wouldn't let him date until he's 18 years old. And that is pretty long. I mean first off, you guys might not even stay friends for that long and you may grow distant. I think that what you should do for now is just keep being friends. If you know that both of you like each other. Go up to him, and just talk like you always do, and tell him at the end that you like him. And still be together, but you don't exactly have to date. You guys can still hang out, but not as much like friends.

I understand what you mean when you say "fight" which means flirting in a way. When a guy and a girl fight and argue for little things it means that they just want to talk and argue for the sake of being together.

Tell me a little more about what you guys do, and maybe I can help you find a way. The thing is, we know you can't convince his parents to let him date, unless your a really charismatic person.
Just keep doing what you guys are doing, but let each other know how you feel. You don't have to make a decision yet. Are you in grade 10? And he's in grade what, 7 or 8?

Give me a little more information, and we'll talk more about it. Also tell me what happens when you tell him how you feel. Don't be scared, the moment you stop making mistakes, is the moment you stop learning. Trust me

PS_ thanks for joining and trusting me with this.

[biggestjonasfan]

I am in Grade 9 and he is in Grade 7.
We go to a youth group together, every thursday.
I don't really know what to tell you.. lol.
I am friends with his sister, so i go over to his house.
Umm, i really don't know what you want to know

Ps your welcome

[&catchme]

I think you should just try to be his friend, and wait it out and see what happens. (:

Age is a number, plus 7th on 9th isn't THAT big of a deal. Plus he deserves a chance . Just give it time if it works out great, if it doesn't great.

[Naz]

Like Colette said, you should give it a try. Go for it, without taking chances you won't get anywhere. I learnt that from experience.

[&catchme]

Yeah, lifes about taking chances.
If we didn't take them, life would be pointless.

[biggestjonasfan]

But see, I would tell him. Like I mean, I have no problem with that. It's just I dont know if I can trust him. Like, if he knows I am afraid of him telling, his sister, and that would totally make our friendship akward. And she will tell some one, and then before you know it, all of youth group knows. I just wish he would say he likes me. Cuz, i wouldn't tell anyone.

[Naz]

if your scared of that, then just wait a while, may a week or so? Become closer to him, in relationship & friendship wise.
Talk to him, be with him most of the time. and before you know it, he'll be admitting that he likes you. And you shouldn't worry about his sister, i mean it's about you two, not her.

[biggestjonasfan]

Okay, I will try that. I don't think it will work. Maybe if we become really close, then I could ask him if he likes me? Just be like, hey, people are saying that you like me. Is this true?

Also, what did you want to know. Like what happens at youth?

[Naz]

yeah, u can definitely try that!
yep, that's what i want to know.

[&catchme]

You say you like him right?

So why should it matter what people think?
I know it's like OMG if they found out I liked someone
younger I'd DIE! But honestly, they'll get over it.
And if they're your REAL friends they'd be happy for you.
I think you should come clean.
But as Naz said you could wait to.

True friends support you no matter what.

[biggestjonasfan]

Yeah, okay. So stuff that happens at youth.. Let me see.
He recently always starts sitting near me and my friends during snack, and um, he is always staring at me during like "Bible Study" time. And umm he usually talks to me about random stuff. I can let you know more in detail later. like the next time i see him..

Colette - I understand where you are coming from. But yoou see one of my other Friends, lets call her Claira just so no one gets confused, use to like him, and everyone teased Claira, and joked around with her. it would just be very very akward! you get what i am saying?

[&catchme]

Yeah I get it.
But, it's not fair to him.
Kids are cruel bottom line, and NO matter what there's ALWAYS going to be something from them to pick on you about you kno??
Be the mature one *Wink*

[Naz]

he totally likes you.
when does this youth thing end? or is it during the summer too?

[biggestjonasfan]

Haha, Colette.. Your funny

It goes all year round. Through the summer. But during the summer it's called drop in, and not that many people go.